Fidelty in Marriage

I really enjoyed this weeks discussion on fidelity in marriage. I think I liked it so much because I have seen so many failed marriages in my family due to this issue. It's amazing how many different things can contribute to fidelity. Once you are married, your spouse is the most important thing to you. Brother Williams said that this is what we are here to do well on this earth, and if we don't why are we here? We are not as attentive to our marriages as we should be. If we are unkind we can invite infedility. Adam and Eve were created and very dedicated to each other. When we have strong marriages, we are fulfilling why we came here- that is why satan works so hard because if he can ruin a family, it can ruin four to five generations. I thought it was interesting that we talked about how when you are engaged, you say goodbye to your friends. When you get married, you don't talk or be alone with your friends of the opposite sex before. You should set boundaries before marriage about what you want to do when you get married to face these issues. You shouldn't have girls/ guys night out, because it can draw you away from your spouse.

conflict

Does conflict help you out in your marriage? There are many examples that my class members shared today that I thought were really inspiring. Conflicts can bring us closer to God, and in marriage, they can bring them closer to each other and to God. Well then, what are some of those conflicts that happen in marriage? Pornography, infidelity, growing apart, adjusting to children, physical attraction decreasing..ect. There are so many things that couples face. Just talking about kind of makes me feel scared, but I think just like any other thing in life, trials are what really humble us and bring us closer to our Heavenly Father and becoming like Him. The whole point of our lives is to return to God and become more like Him. WE cannot do it without a spouse. We cannot do it without God's help. Why not take a chance on marriage? I'm not saying just go and pick someone out..But if you find the right person and are scared about it, but you know its right, have faith. There is going to be trials and conflicts, but trust in God to help you. I don't think any greater joy comes from having a family and being able to overcome conflicts together.

PPP

Wow! I thought that was the coolest thing we learned in class about dating today. We are told that a date is planned, paid for, and paired off. These correlate with the duties of the father in the proclamation. He is to preside, provide, and protect. I think it is true that you can tell alot about a guy with how he handles a date. I have had both good and bad dates, and I think it is important to experience both of them so you really know what you want. We talked alot about the boys role in dating, but not very much about the girls role. I think its crucial for a girl to be courteous, and not mean. If your date has planned something fun, have a good attitude. Just because a guy asks you out on a date does not mean that he is proposing for marriage. I really think that when dating is done the right way, it is such a blast! I have looked back on all of my experiences and wouldn't have changed anything. Sometimes it seems like a painful experience, especially at byu-idaho, but I really think one day we will look back on it and laugh and smile.